When we lose someone, or something that holds great importance for us, it leaves a yawning gap in our lives. But where exactly is this gap? Newtonian physics would not be able to find it and actually show us the location of this empty space, and a Doctor would not be able to fill it or fix it with a bandage, although she might suggest the numbing qualities of another mind bender. The gap doesn’t exist in a material sense, but we feel it all the same. It is like a bottomless pit that floats in and out of our awareness, lost in time somewhere, but the pain of its presence we feel right now. Sometimes it is almost as if we can see into it – the gap, the pit – and the heartbreak is there is no light within. What can we do?
It seems we have to get bigger. Much bigger. We have to move beyond the ‘little me’ and begin to see a timeless, endless divinity that works ceaselessly and effortlessly. The way out of suffering is to move out, in all directions and in all ways. If we expand beyond the terrors of our mortality and inevitable losses, we begin to see the magic and motion of life playing out in everything we say and everything we do. Our lives become purposeful – not in worldly ways we have been taught hold the greatest value, like our ability to build empires and corporations – but in the subtle realms of love and compassion for all things. It is here that our Truth unfolds. Here is where our reason for living reveals itself.
Why do we have to feel pain? Because we can. Through the pain in our life experiences, our true nature has the opportunity to show itself. If we acknowledge our fears – the losses and the sorrows – and take from them the gifts that really are there if we put down our weapons and allow – Life/God/The Universe comes joyfully tumbling into everything, and it is as if our thoughts and words and deeds become charged with a gentle power, so great it creates new worlds in every moment.
When we forget our connection to all life, we feel small, isolated and alone. We feel like victims – tiny, suffering and helpless. This is not who we are – not really. We have the power of choice in every moment, and when we choose to remember we are all things in all ways, our yawning, painful gaps fill in with love and kindness, and we are complete.
We are human, and it is inevitable that we will experience loss in life, but when we feel it, and feel it we will, we can also choose to be healed by remembering our connection to divinity, and invite in the greatest force in all the Universe…